LOOKING BACK, LOOKING FORWARD

Niece Zina. File photo

Why is family Important?

Family helps us get through the most disastrous times and the best times. Family is important because they are your most trusted support system, and they offer you security coupled with unconditional love; they will always look to see and bring out the best in you even if you cannot see it for yourself. They are friends, there is family and then there are friends that become family. Family is indeed everything, its like walking the talk.

However, like someone said on Twitter “No family is perfect, we argue, we fight, we even stop talking to each other at times but in the end, family is family, the love will always be there.”

I've wealth of experiences, and I can't wait to take my reader's through my vine. Having something to look forward to makes you “feel good” and may also give an “atmosphere of growth” to one's life, because the future seems bright, it can never be bleak, I have always been an optimist, every day follow your dream and be consistent - Our thought reflects our actions. I've never been this excited about writing and pouring my heart, and that I will keep doing until I am totally knacked.

It's been weeks since I arrived here and things have changed so much in what some might call a short period of time. The first few days seem so long ago now, I suppose we should never forget how important it is to have good people in your life, because they can make such a difference.

Coming back home after spending Christmas and New Year at the hospital felt like returning to a second home, to a place that was mine and I am accustomed to, with people I cared about. Things got even more busy and more people came into my life; new family, and a whole lot of good food flowed by in what seems to have been weeks after struggling to regain appetite post-surgery.

I never knew I had a thing of that magnitude around me, until my surgerical experience. The health workers asserted they never seen anything like such, everyone worried - mild anxiety amongst my loved ones - some said they feel puffed, short of breath or winded. I remember one of my uncles telling the other not to be pensive that Prof is a renowned surgeon and nothing will go wrong.

They helped me tunnel through the hurdle. I felt a gush of relief. It was a sign of normalcy, a kind of water shed moment for our family: Friends were in the house. They were barnacle on my life through out the whole period.

Don't do life alone, I often tell people. Especially for those who live with differentness, it's important to create spaces where you feel safe and at home in order to survive. It's worth working to find people with whom you can remove your armor and shed your worries. With your family, closest friends, loved ones, you can be rest assured you're not alone. You can say all the things you've held back in other spaces. You can show your unbridled anger, your fear of injustices and slights. Life has shown me that strong relationships are most often the result of strong intentions.

Don't do life alone!