FRIDAY TEA

     

         

Leveling up is a marathon, not a sprint. Be patient with yourself and do the work.

You can know if you like or will get along with someone within the first day of meeting them - So two years of dating is more than enough time to know if you're compatible with someone or not.

If you still have mixed feelings or are unsure about this person after 2 years, they're not the one - Simple. You're just trying to force them to be the one or you are waiting for your one to show up.

Ladies be like... 

I know he finds me attractive, but he won't approach me.

I know he likes me, but he doesn't want to be with me.

I know he cares about me, but he's afraid to show his feelings

I know he's in love with me, but he doesn't want to marry me.

I know he's too busy that's why he hasn't called since last week.

I know he wants to pay for things but he's just afraid of being used.

I know he did that to HER but he would never do that to me.

We like making excuses for these men.

I know he abuses, cheats on, and disrespect me but he still got love for me.

I know he hits me every day, but that's because he's deeply in love with me and dont want to lose me.

Just because he finds her attractive doesnt mean he wants her or she's his ONE he has been searching for.  We can all find beauty in every day life doesnt mean we want them in our possession.

Girl I know youre in denial but I am going to let you believe what your mind wants to believe.

I know all he does is hang with his friends, drink, smoke weed, doesnt have a job and plays video games, but he has potential,  hes going to be a millionaire some day!

Imagine being on this level of delusional. Damn, near time to check into a mental  ward.

Sounds like youre nothing but a glorified booty call to me and he goes on about his life with his real one after you. You cannot bribe a man's love with loyalty, good sex  and cooked meals. 

Women can save themselves so much heartache by listening to men from the jump and not thinking theyre so special, and that they can make him change in to what they want - listen, accept, and act accordingly. 

Give him time to prove himself before jumping into the "wifey mood."  

Nwanyi  (woman), put down that phone. He knows he hasn't called, texted or asked to see you again. Men communicate with their actions. Never let a man put his future inside of you if he hasn't even committed to a future with you. Teach your daughters this, even if you didn't follow this path. Let us normalize being a wife before a baby mama. 

A man could be 100% sure he wants you to have his baby. 100% sure he doesn't want you dating other guys. 100% sure he wants to bring something to the table financially. 100%  sure he wants to sleep with you. But you don't think he's 100% sure he wants to marry you?  

To Be Continued. . .